DANCE OF LIFE: Lessons Learned by Josephine
Photography by Fran Collin
I’ve learned there are so many good people in this world, like our pastor, the Reverend Dr. Blair Moffett, who has stood by me throughout. My coworkers and neighbors bring food to the rehab center because they know I don’t have time to cook. You have to have humility and let people know how you feel about what they do. There are so many phone calls. I try to answer every one and say, “Thank you.”
The doctors and nurses have been the motivating force behind Francis, so every day I stop by the desk and say something to let them know I appreciate what they’re doing. That gives them incentive. I don’t get to see the primary-care doctor often, but I keep calling. That makes a doctor pay more attention to the patient.
You have to take care of yourself, as well. I’ve joined a yoga class for the first time. I was embarrassed because everyone was so much better, but now I can do more and more. I go twice a week during my lunch hour. After every class, I feel better about myself.
The best advice I can give caregivers is not to have a victim mentality. Some people ask, “Aren’t you angry?” I say, “Why should I be angry?” You have to refuse to listen to negative people. I tell them to celebrate what happens as a victory because it means God is preparing you for the next level and leading you to another path; He will give you the wisdom and strength to handle the situation.
It’s important to put on a smiling face because that inspires people. And remember that other people can be your resource, so don’t be shy about talking to them and sharing stories.
In Ghana, we believe in the meaning of names. I chose Josephine because, in the Bible, Joseph’s dreams came true. My son’s name means Where there’s life, there’s hope.
You have to hope. Faith is the master key. And love anchors it all.